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The CHoice: toward spiritual evolution
In the LIght of the Shadow
There will be choices along the path. These choices are opportunities to choose oneness or fear. The choice is your awareness of both the light and the shadow in a situation and within yourself. When you are aware of both the light and shadow, you can make a choice. Ask yourself: “Do I want truth or illusion?” “Do I want unconditional love, oneness, peace, harmony, joy or do I wish to multiply illusions, feeding a belief in fear, shame, guilt and separation.”
“ Everything you see is a result of your thoughts. There is no exception to this fact. Thoughts are not big or little; powerful or weak. They are merely true or false. Those that are true create their own likeness. those that are false make theirs.”
_Course in Miracles
When we identify with the shadow and think we deserve it, that we are punishable or otherwise in need of remorse, the shadow seems to consume us and so does our outward picture of “life.” Thus, when we identify with the shadow, it creates more illusions around us. When we have the subtle awareness of both light and shadow- truth or illusion- we are more apt to choose the light, because the light is who we really are in Truth. The discernment between truth and illusion becomes clearer when perception dissolves into clarity.
In light of the shadow, we choose love. In light of the shadow, we see it for what it is and integrate what our heart says is best. In light of the shadow, we raise our hearts and minds to a higher purpose, to see Truth as love, the only reality. We acknowledge in the past that we have denied and forgotten love because of fear; however as the choice becomes clearer, Truth or illusion, so does our reality shift. We have denied because we have been perpetuating beliefs that have us believe we are so far removed from our Source. The reality is the exact opposite. The Source in within and never leaves.
When the thought arises, the “shadow” or “the scary place,” we might say, we need not quickly toss it away, deny it or make it wrong; for when we do, we act impulsively and with guilt, and then claim victim without a choice. Instead, therefore, we do our best to sit with the shadow longer and in deep contemplation, we make the discernment of what our heart feels is “good,” compassionate and loving. This simple act is an automatic clearing of perception into true awareness, formless and within us all.
The clearer our perception the greater our chance of peace, unconditional love, harmony and joy. A person may wish to deny the desire of these things because somewhere in life, he/she learned differently, opposite to what is true. However, the past is past and we can not bring it here to excuse us of our habits, tendencies and impulsive nature. Instead, we must choose consciously. We must see the choice is there and have the desire to raise our perception to light, to higher purpose, to compassion and heart. Also we must forgive ourselves and give our reactivities and judgments, fear and shame to the Love that takes it all way.
“Now is the time when I let go of my Fears, ambitions and sense of dread. when I give up control and let you hold me with no resistance in my soul…This is the day when I throw it all away to the fire of the all loving one. Now I have just what I need to feel free to be who I really am.. . Lyrics by Jaya Lakshmi.
The holidays are here and so are the blues for many.
While it may seem to be that we are here for family, in reality, we are here for God. Some may choose to say that family and God are One and this is true. However, within the family, there are distortions and lies, suppression and denial of feelings, all which are masks that hide the true face of God.
Many may come to terms that the family we are born into is not the family for which we long. The communion, the peace, the tranquility, the sharing, the unconditional love for which we long in our hearts, oftentimes, does not match the love we are told is there. For this reason, we settle into family matters and accept that the denial and suppression of our true, authentic and unique self, is a part of our acceptance of each other. In other words, we often cling to the belief that the family is a representation of our worth and therefore, deny and suppress our authenticity out of the shame and fear of not being acceptable or enough…
For this reason, family matters often leaves one depressed, for any denial and suppression of feelings and true authentic being leaves the child of God in his wounded place: angry, resentful, unloved, bitter and simply unseen of his true reality and potential. This suppression longs for expression; however, because of fear, the expression manifests in other ways, such as loneliness, excessive drinking, drug use, and also, the projection of fear and shame (making others wrong, i.e. complaining).
To overcome these holiday blues, One must strive for authenticity and honesty as much as possible. However, with compassion and love to see the wound of others, and with sensitivity to see what is being heard and unheard, we must accept it into our hearts that what goes unheard does not mean anything at all. Instead, what goes unheard and becomes misdirected , merely represents the unhealed wound that thwarts the true, authentic Self from shining through.
“Nothing from without can effect the life of God inside of me.”
If we apply this knowledge to our situations and circumstance regarding family matters, we may come to realize that our family members are a mere representation of the discord we feel within ourselves. Regarding our connection to God, our trust or lack thereof, is uncovered in how we feel about ourselves in our relating to family situations and circumstance. It is likely that our fear of being alone is also surfaced during these times, for the biological family for which we were brought into is the densest representation of the core wounding for which we are here to heal from.
At the core,
we are all healing from the belief that we are separate from God.
Our true family lies in the Unconditional Love of God, a Creator that given the opportunity, gives us a direct experience of Its loving presence and joyful rewards. However, our emotional baggage and untrue beliefs regarding ourselves and the family can thwart our capacity to experience the realization that the love we seek is ALWAYS inside ourselves.
In so much as possible, to overcome the holiday blues, it is imperative to not take the negativity, the judgements and criticism, the fear and shame on as meaningful. For the more authentic one becomes, the more challenging it may be to the family, who wishes to continue denying out of their own fear and shame. At the same time, the more authentic one is, the freer one becomes and so too, does the family.
To whatever degree that one is able to be authentic, we must have compassion to see that the denial and suppression of feelings to remain in peace offers a remedy, albeit a temporary one. The courage to be oneself may always arise within the family as a challenge; however, it is also important to recognize that the acceptance of the family and the building of tolerance within ourselves are useful tools to develop in either case.
The overcome the holiday blues, it is most important to consistently be accepting and loving oneSelf, to be as authentic as possible. When judgement and criticism, fear and shame arise, it is important to not make it meaningful but instead to see with the eyes of compassion, to know that the opportunity to build tolerance within the body, at the very least, is what is available for one’s own spiritual growth and development.
May we have the courage to be authentic, vulnerable, and open.
May we accept the differences without dismissing the light in each other.